bic_bicknell
2011-06-29 21:36:00 UTC
Because I want to sign up and come.
But there's a terrible moral dilemma involved. Got the twins, (three months old now), got the 20 month old daughter, got the all time consuming job. Got my other two kids as well that I try and see at the weekends. Amy is doing so well managing to cope, sometimes I'm not there enough because of the job. But I try to get home every night in time to cook a meal for everyone and get the kids to sleep. We get about an hour together every night. Quality time? Not sure.... we are so knackered and worn out. Anyone with kids will understand this. Weekends are about a bit of recovery and sharing the load. But OMG I miss the SD time. The Sunday runs, (sorry Kliky), the messing about cleaning and fettling the bike, the needless trips round the bike shops on Saturday morning to look at stuff and just get the bike fired up.
Just to hear the engine running.
Just to put on my leathers.
Just to smell engine oil.
Just to clip my visor down and snick the gearbox into first.
Just to find an open road and tear through the quickshifter,
to hit the apex,
to get the rush,
to breath.
to live.
Do you understand?
fook. I managed to get the 13th at Brands Hatch with some of you guys. I was rusty.
I'm booked onto the 18th for another tiny break of liberation.
But I just don't know how far I can push it with Amy. I'm genuinely think she will not agree to two/three days on her own coping with three kids without me. And I don't really know if it's fair to ask.
So come on you lot. Give me a thread that I can let her read. A thread so I don't need to ask her myself. A thread that I can, one night after I cook her a meal and put the kids to bed and clean up the kitchen and give her a bunch of flowers and tell her I love her and then take her to the computer and say,
"read this"......
If you guys can't put together a compelling argument why I should leave my beautiful girlfriend, mother of my children, best mate, trusted friend, long suffering partner to spend three days with you ugly lot, crashing bikes, talking shit, drinking cheap beer, farting, unwashed, oily, stinking, sweaty.......
.....then I don't know who can.
My fate is in your hands my good friends.
shadowman
2011-06-29 21:56:00 UTC
I might go myself, haven't decided yet but then I don't have to justify the decision to anybody so it's easy. You on the other hand have more demands to juggle and here is two ways you might do it.
The honest approach would be to trade. Offer to send her away for a weekend of pampering while you wipe, feed and change the infants in exchange for allowing you a sweaty weekend with the SD crew.
The more manipulative approach would be to "accidentally" leave this bit on screen when Amy is likely to read it and say nothing....
If you guys can't put together a compelling argument why I should leave [color=#FF0000]my beautiful girlfriend, mother of my children, best mate, trusted friend, long suffering partner[/color] to spend three days with you ugly lot, crashing bikes, talking shit, drinking cheap beer, farting, unwashed, oily, stinking,
Reading you being soppy about her in public should do the job
Good luck!
Ducati Pete
2011-06-29 22:04:00 UTC
The only difference being you'll be having fun.
I can't really see the problem.
Ducati Pete
2011-06-29 22:06:00 UTC
Truth is I don't seem to be motivated to ride or enjoy it like I used to.
Do you want to go, or would you rather just give the bike a another clean?
Only you know the answer.
bic_bicknell
2011-06-29 22:31:00 UTC
Sick of surviving on opportunistic cleaning sessions, need to ride. Actually, I hardly ever 'clean' the bike. I just prep it for riding, but that sometimes involves a bit of cleaning.
Course I want to go. But it's not just me that it effects. I have to go away on business a lot, (I think like you), and that is always a mandatory.....""I have to be away for the next few days...blah blah..."
But this is a leisure activity. And Amy doesn't get that luxury.....ever.
Is that fair?
SDNerd
2011-06-29 23:06:00 UTC
If you're worried about "fair" (and there is no "fair") - I'm going to assume she has some time consuming interests she's passionate about, external to home, family, and you - ? Maybe encourage her to do on occasion as you'd like: To get away for a few days now and then, where you'll take on the whole enchilada while she gets away from the "routine".
It's something anyone with a lot on their plate needs - that occasional escape. Business travel is hardly that, and when you return all expect you to make up for time away - as if you were on holiday or something.
Finding that balance with the sig other, and encouraging each other to pursue the things that you're both passionate about - independent of each other, is what can make things work IMO. Plenty of other common interest time to fill the days of your lives, to not worry (or feel guilty) about the occasional departure.
Good luck man!
Twisted Jester
2011-06-29 23:23:00 UTC
Superdan
2011-06-30 00:03:00 UTC
But from what I have read about you and Amy as your partner, I have no doubt if you mentioned the very thought of this to her she would be asking why you had not booked up already, and I presume her happiness is seeing you happy, and I think if she knew spending 3 days with some unruly hooligans would not bring a smile to your face for the next month to come and the month after, then she cant know you very well. But I suspect she does
Colonel_Klinck
2011-06-30 05:43:00 UTC
Colonel_Klinck
2011-06-30 06:02:00 UTC
indy84
2011-06-30 07:24:00 UTC
CEREC1
2011-06-30 08:10:00 UTC
Post missing.
blb
2011-06-30 09:25:00 UTC
My Kerry is extremely good about my bike obsession but only because the bike came first. However she is having a bad time at work so I might ask her if she wants to come along, could you do the same? There's plenty of green space and I'm sure it would be safe for your older kids? I'm sure Amy would enjoy all the different company and it would take her briefly away from the drudgery of home life for 2 or 3 days.
If all else fails go for the compromise and just do 1 of the days?
If kerry comes along she can provide therapy for our tired legs as she is a sports massage therapist. I still haven't told her i'm going though
CEREC1
2011-06-30 10:26:00 UTC
Cheers
Really looking forward to the fest.
blb
2011-06-30 11:29:00 UTC
Post missing.
Schnauzer
2011-06-30 12:34:00 UTC
BASH69
2011-06-30 13:43:00 UTC
Im in almost the same situation myself and having trouble justifying it!
Me and wifey own and share our business, she runs the office and looks after office staff and i go out and deal with all the shit heads, scum and general low life that our business has to deal with.
We also have 2 children, our lil man whos 5 and our baby girl whos 11 months!
Now, we currently only have child care (my parents) for the little girl on a monday, the rest of the week is me and wifey juggling between business and childcare/scholl run etc.
Now the problems start here, the Crashfest is a monday and tuesday during school holidays, 2 of the girls in our office also have kids off school and already have leave booked that week leaving my wife and 1 other part time girl to man the office. We have no child care that week as my parents are away on a long weekend
BASH69
2011-06-30 13:46:00 UTC
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Jermo
2011-06-30 14:03:00 UTC
Jermo
2011-06-30 14:12:00 UTC
Bring the kids to a relative fro the saturday and make your wive go to the spa with a friend of hers to relax for a change. This way you don't feel guilt being away and she has a good time to.
Colonel_Klinck
2011-06-30 16:20:00 UTC
Post missing.
bic_bicknell
2011-06-30 17:24:00 UTC
Ha ha.
I might try this for other stuff then.
So, at my company we have this problem with two of our staff not getting on and .............
No on second thoughts, you don't want to know
I will keep you posted as to whether I can make it to Cadwell.
CEREC1
2011-06-30 17:33:00 UTC
Post missing.
Pig Benis
2011-06-30 17:58:00 UTC
Stupid Luke
2011-06-30 18:56:00 UTC
I have a 6 year old and an 8 year old and have no leisure time at all - and no prospect of any for the forseeable future.
CEREC1
2011-06-30 19:06:00 UTC
It took 20 odd years after my first was born before I started to ride again on a regular basis. No time or money for almost 2 decades.
If Mrs Bic says go and do the trackfest go for it
BASH69
2011-06-30 19:08:00 UTC
Everybody i know seems to think those of us that have our own business has it easy, we have tons of time to ourselves, work when we want, holiday when we want and never have to waorry about a boss breathing down our necks!
As luke says, weve had a business now for 9 years, and its only the last 3 years weve managed a weeks holiday a year! and now we have a kid in school were forced to holiday with all the other bloody families that dont want to be there with thier families and pay a premium for the privilage
Willh
2011-06-30 19:25:00 UTC
I do commute daily, 7-8 months of the year though and that is where I get the relief. So it's not on a track but I did 200kph on the way to work yesterday
Twisted Jester
2011-07-02 00:49:00 UTC
Post missing.